There’s two things I regret about my debt:
1.Bad choices. I chose fun and emotions to be my fiscal guide at times when it came to money. I always have and there’s always been that little voice back there that says: As much fun as you’re having now financially this is a bad move. Listen to your intuition or gut. It usually knows best. Get out of the store think about more than the 3 weeks that new purchase is going to be new. New stuff becomes old stuff. Except now you have the monthly statement for the ‘new’, but you’r stuck with the used.
2. I wasn’t taught otherwise or at very least I was out of class that day when the classes about fiscal responsibility and long term goals were being taught. In fact I don’t recall being taught at all on how to budget or save. I was taught to get a job, spend it, keep working and retire.
It’s my opinion we missed a great opportunity here and that’s education about credit and how the choices you make today can effect tomorrow so much more. The days are long but the years are short.
or, in my language: shoulda, woulda, coulda.
Credit is so easily available from so many sources it’s no wonder that everything these days is just a monthly payment. Nobody thought about the big picture and they don’t look past the end of their nose. And that’s me included. Not too long ago at all I would joke that another $100 spent on my already high credit card balance wouldn’t make a difference. But it does and it will for some time. At 18 percent! I can remember the ‘joke’ sadly but I can’t remember what the $100 was for. Gas in the SUV or some other thing that I didn’t need to go into debt over.
Perhaps I’m looking through rose colored glasses here but I don’t recall everything being just a monthly payment. If you wanted a car maybe as they can be expensive. And a house too was financed usually but that was it.
For everything else: If you had the cash you’d spend it. If you didn’t have it you didn’t spend it. The End.
A house you could argue that you have to live somwhere and you can do the math to show that buying a house is a good deal over time and you can also fudge the numbers that rent might be the better deal. But somewhere along the line we lost our grip on reality with the credit for the rest of the stuff.
It doesn’t help that the banks keep handing it out like candy either and they’re to blame too. It’s like a loaded gun and they just hand over the credit SO easily. Last year the limit on my mastercard was about 10k. And then one day last year they’ve decided to almost double the credit. So what happens? I don’t change my spending habits quick enough and sure enough despite my best efforts and some stupidity on my part the balances raise and raise over time. I wonder how far the rabbit hole goes? I have a friend who bought a cottage a few years ago with his american express. You can buy cars and property with nothing more than half a thought and a swipe of a card.
Two things need to happen to get out of debt: You need to be ready to do it. Tomorrow never comes and if you have a goal of debt freedom there’s a lot of overtime or crappy jobs or or late nights or selling your toys to get there. It’s taken me far too long to get my head wrapped around this but you have to stop spending on credit. If you can’t pay for it when the bill comes in you can’t afford it. Period.
And the banks need to just stop this non stop lending too. I noticed that there’s some small print and new legislation for credit cards coming in place and my September bill will show me how many months or years it will take me to pay off the credit card if I keep making minimums over time. If that isn’t a good wakeup call I don’t know what is.
Spending has become too easy with credit too. Want a new TV? swipe it! $5 cup of coffee? swipe away! What if you had to live with cash? What if you only could spend what you have and not a penny more? What if they returned to lineups at your bank where you had to fill out forms and wait to get to your money? 40 years ago, the bank machine arrived. Even cash is so accessible. What if you lived JUST with cash? No plastic. It seems almost like living with flinstones, doesn’t it? Today if you want a mortgage the bank comes to you! You don’t have to talk to a manager or sit with somebody at a desk with a calculator. Now somebody shows up at your door and you’re pre-approved. No deposit? no problem!
I’m tempted to try the cash only diet. Figure out what I need to live for 30 days and then go to the bank, withdraw the cash, and only spend what you have. Gail Vaz Oxlade is a big proponent of using jars for budgeting and others have suggested envelopes and others use binders and spreadsheets and I think it’s a great idea as you get to see where you money goes.
How many times have you yanked out some money from the ATM on a Saturday morning and then you go out for the day, pick up the dry cleaning and a few other items and all your money is gone. And you look at your empty wallet and try to figure out where the money went. I used to do that at an alarming rate, and I think that’s what the jars and other stuff does. It makes you pay attention to your spending. And once that happens you start to think about swiping that debit card.
Getting out of debt takes so long because habits take too long to change. It’s so tempting to go back to starbucks for that latte. You went yesterday so why not go again today? But if you can change that habit to bring your coffee or even do without you start to change your mindset from how much you can spend to how much you save.
The jars or envelopes let you see that. If you budget for your coffees it’s quite possible you will overspend. But you can’t with the jars. If you over spend with the jar system you’re screwed because eventually the jar will become empty. And for the first month or so that might very well happen. But over time you get used to having a certain amount budgeted for spending and you get in the habit of at very least staying within your budget. And when that happens then you can start to save. Save for debt and when the debt’s gone then you can just save for the sake of saving and that’s where the magic happens. Get off the hedonistic treadmill and get on with the rest of your life. Your latte doesn’t bring long term happiness. But debt freedom will .